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I wrote in the comment section of another one of your essays that the subject matter had been on my mind—the same is true for this essay too! I was thinking the other day about two different "worlds" I've experienced. I've experienced the worlds of people who, like the essay explains, have common sense. And I've experienced the worlds of people who look at themselves as if they're philosophical gods (all-knowing; therefore I'm not worth their time or a proper conversation). I've come to the conclusion of, give me common sense people over the "philosophically" gifted any day (of course, this does not apply to every situation. For instance, I greatly enjoy our discussions). One thing I notice about people like you mention, who are smart, capable, and can participate in those middle levels of abstraction, they often come off much smarter to me than these philosophically intellectual types because they are actually so much more grounded in reality. I'll give you an example. Some time ago, I attended a meeting of "philosophical" minds. They were okay. But I quickly realized they lacked any kind of understood decorum because they not only had an inflated sense of self, but like you said, I also felt maybe they were "neurodivergent" (at least I think I'm using that term correctly). We met at a restaurant, a sports bar style place, and the music was just a touch loud. The bar was full. While we were there to chat, the rest of the establishment was enjoying the music. We were having a bit of trouble hearing each other. When the waitress came to take our order, one of the people at our table told her to turn the music down. I immediately, and calmly, told him that's overstepping a bit. He understood and told her not to worry about it. I'm not saying people should never ask staff to turn down music, but given all the context, that we weren't the only ones there, and there was a venue full of people enjoying the music, to me, it should have been evident that one should not ask for it to be turned down. Then, on the topic of government "welfare" programs, when I went into the rampant abuse within the system (obviously that's not the case with everyone, but members of my family have great working knowledge of the abuses within these programs due to their jobs), the table couldn't believe that people could be dishonest like that, and use government funding in ways the funding wasn't intended to be used. Then, on the topic of women (I was the only woman there), they were talking about women's biology using completely unfounded claims they thought were true simply because it fit their narrative of what "women" are. I tried to offer evidence-based context as to why they were wrong in their thinking. They literally laughed it off. THEN, later on, a rumor was spread around the group that I had a drinking problem... I ordered ONE scotch and water over the course of a period of several hours. Every time I attempted to make a point grounded in reality and based on evidence, I was brushed off. It was a terrible experience, and unfortunately, one that's not an isolated incident. These people literally thought their brains were God's gift to the universe. Major Superman syndrome. I came to the conclusion that, each instance that rubbed me the wrong way stemmed from them not being rooted in reality, and having this significantly inflated sense of self. On the other hand, I have many friends who I would say have "common sense." I greatly enjoy my conversations with them. Mostly, because they understand reality. And they understand NUANCE. That's a huge one. So many philosophical types are rationalists, especially when they claim they aren't. I notice running themes of these people who I'd say have common sense. Though they probably couldn't define "epistemology," they do have a grasp on reality, they do understand how the world ACTUALLY works because they live in it, they don't simply wax poetic about it. And the biggest thing that they posses that I admire is that we spend more time asking questions to each other and bouncing ideas off each other than talking at each other because we each think we're smarter than the other. It goes back to that first point I made, they understand courtesy. They have empathy. They are genuinely curious because they're smart enough to admit that they don't have everything all figured out. I so enjoyed your essay because you went through the process of not only defining common sense, but mapping out its concepts. In a culture in which I believe common sense is quickly draining, and most are chasing pseudo-intellectualism, your work you've done so far on the subject is super important.

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